14 November 2016:

They say that in India, basil was cherished as an icon of hospitality and in Italy, it was seen as a symbol of love.  This made me think.  I am naturally a very caring person.  Kind, kind-hearted, warmhearted, tender, concerned, attentive, thoughtful, solicitous, altruistic, considerate, affectionate, loving, doting, sympathetic, understanding, compassionate, feeling.   Name it what you want, I love people and I care about them.

Sometimes though, life happens and then others start caring for you, instead of you for them.  This is very unsettling.  It lifts you out of your soft cocoon, out of your self-manufactured idea of self-reliance, independence and an illusion of security.  It happens rather quickly, abrupt and rudely I would say.  Caring gestures from others towards you is not always easy to accept.  It’s very hard actually, this vulnerable position you’re in.  Do you say no, or do you just accept?

A friend recently answered my query.   People love you.  Just accept it, they care and they want to help.

It’s rather difficult.  It feels so weak, so lame even pathetic, but then I think, perhaps not.  Maybe it’s a space, and a place of understanding one’s own vulnerability.  Of not numbing our feelings and of embracing where we are at, understanding our own growth process, learning and maturing, in the waiting.

It is believed that basil have been found growing around Christ’s tomb after the resurrection.  Isn’t this appropriate …?

Enjoy my recipe for Basil Pesto Pasta, shared with love:

Enough for 6 adults

Total cost:  R120


  • 500 gr spaghetti
  • 2 handfuls of fresh basil leaves
  • 2 cloves of garlic
  • 100 gr of slivered almonds
  • Olive Oil – to taste (about 300 ml)
  • 250 ml or more grounded Parmesan cheese
  • Freshly ground salt and black pepper to taste


  1. Ground olive oil and garlic in mixer
  2. Add basil leaves and grind
  3. Add almonds
  4. Add olive oil
  5. Add Parmesan cheese
  6. Add black ground pepper and salt to taste

Cook pasta.  Mix Basil pesto with some of the pasta water until soft and creamy.  Mix through cooked pasta.  Serve immediately with a fresh salad of cherry tomatoes and basil leaves. Add a bit of olive oil to the mixed pasta as well as the salad.

Share with someone you love!

Will journal soon again.


With love and Thyme greetings!

Liesl – Mom on Thyme


Recipe inspired by The 100 best pasta recipes by Diane Seed and Mom on Thyme’s husband.

Liesl is a life-and business coach with her own coaching company named Thyme2B.